So I am getting married in 39 days (unnecessary wedding plug again) and I have started to think about the loss of something that has been a part of me since before I was even born….my last name! Now, before I start, I am changing to T.’s last name. It is a good, simple last name and I love him and I am proud to change to his name. However, as we get closer to the big day and as people insist on pointing out the fact that my name will change I have begun to say to myself…self I think I really like our last name! A lot of my friends refer to me by my last name and ever since I was in school I have been referred to by using my last name or some form of my last name, especially when I played basketball and there were already 3 different Jen’s out there – thanks 70’s/80’s for naming everyone Jennifer!
It is defiantly going to be a switch and even writing his last name has no flow, unlike my current name!
Side Note: Yes I have practiced writing T.’s last name. We met exactly 6 years ago and started dating a couple months later which means (b/c I am a girl) I have been practicing writing his name for over 5 ½ years – that’s how we are!!!
And even after all this time and practice, I still can’t get use to writing his name! I also think about all the people who already know me with my current name and now have to refer to me as something else! I still forget that one of my best friends Abbie changed her name, I NEVER call her by her new married name and she has been married for over 2 years!!!
For me, THIS is the hardest thing about getting married! Children, finances, religion…we have almost all that figured out – but changing of thy name, they didn’t go over that in my Catholic Engaged Couples Conference! LOL
So even with all that said I will change my name and be SO happy that day when they pronounce us as Mr. And Mrs. T. H.! And I know there will be tears shed as we “start” our new married life and “leave” my old single life as well as my old name behind! My current last name is associated with my past and I am ready for my future! So it is with a tear in my eye and a smile on my face that I say to my last name "you were a good name and I shall remember you fondly as well as all the memories associated with you"!!
Adios mi nombre pasado!
(Goodbye my last name)