Friday, May 31, 2013

Talk to Me – Crying At Bath Time

So over the past week Henry has developed a fear of baths.  It is to the point where last night just saying “do you want to take a bath” brought on tons of tears.  And I had to actually get in the tub with him while he was crying almost uncontrollably while he squeezed me so tightly, just to rinse him off as he hadn't had a bath in over a week. 

This was Henry about 5 minutes after his bath yesterday….still crying :(

Later with his wild hair, that I am sure still had soap in it...
just wanting to lock arms with me and cuddle but acting like nothing had happened.

As you may have seen in a previous post, Henry is going through a little phase. (That seems to have gotten a little better in the last week.)  But I think this is unrelated to that.

Now we have never given him a bath every day as he has sensitive skin and we just never felt he needed it.  But now that he is outside more and going to school one day a week, we have upped baths to a few times a week.  A couple weeks ago he was fine.  He LOVED bath time.  He loved splashing and getting me all wet.  He loved his toys.  And some days I would drain all the water and he would still be sitting in there.  And while he has always HATED getting water poured on his head, we try to avoid that and just use a wash cloth to rinse his hair; it has never been a reason for him not to want a bath.  Also, nothing has happened to him in the bath where he fell under water or anything like that to spur this fear.

Then a week ago he stood up in the bath and pointed down to himself and squeaked.  Before I could realize what he wanted he was peeing in the tub.  He then got, what I assume was embarrassed, and started whining because he peed in the tub.  Of course I sat him on the potty and nothing and he went back in.

Then a couple days later Terry gave him a bath and he did the same thing except this time he got a little more upset about peeing in the tub and kept wanting to sit on the toilet but was getting upset on the toilet.

Then for the past three days we have tried to give him a bath.  First I tried and he was all excited for bath.  We put his toys in, got undressed, and I put him in the tub.  And as soon as he was in the tub standing he started pointing to his himself like he had to pee.  So I put him on the toilet, but nothing.  So I put him back in the tub and tears….lots of tears.  I tried for a few minutes to get him to relax and nothing, he just wanted OUT.  So then the next day Terry tried, thinking maybe it was me or it was a new day and he would be fine.  Same thing.  He pointed at himself and cried.

So that brings us to last night.

Now, we thought for a second, perhaps it hurt when he pees….but he is fine ANY OTHER time he pees so we don’t think it is that.  We are wondering if he is becoming more aware of peeing and he feels like he needs too when he is in the bath but because he isn’t potty trained he doesn’t quite get it and that is why he is rattled, slightly scared when he does pee in the tub.  If he is around the house with no diaper he hates if he accidentally pees on the carpet.  You can tell he is trying to control it, but can’t just yet.

Or perhaps he is just a toddler and he has this fear for whatever reason and as quickly as it came on it will go away. 

We did buy soap crayons and tried those yesterday and they didn’t work.  He just grasped to them while crying.  We have thought about trying to bathe him in a swimsuit or swim diaper to see if that helps.  And perhaps just an inch or two of water.  However, we will most likely not try for a few days as we do not want to perpetuate this fear anymore by forcing him to get in the tub when he is noticeably upset.  We will most likely just give him a sponge bath for the next week or so and slowly try again later.  I also haven’t tried the swimming pool yet this summer so I am not sure if he has a fear of all water or just the tub.  I might try this weekend to get insight to that.

However, I must ask….have you ever had a child who was scared of getting a bath, especially when they were OK with it before?!?!

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Henry Not Talk….Henry Smash….Henry Scream….Mom & Dad Drink

Let’s talk about hitting and communicating and the frustration for your toddler and for you when you are having issues with both, shall we?

Friday, May 17, 2013

This and That Friday

- It is FRIDAY!  I am not joking when I say that I look forward to this day from about Sunday at 8pm until it gets here.

- I think I will get this book. Corey Feldman Coreyography.

1. I don't think it will be a hard read.
2. I have had a crush on him FOREVER. I am talking, all the way back to The Goonies and even as a voice in the TNMT III!! Turtle power.
3. I think it will also be interesting to read about his life. He hung out with Michael Jackson when he was younger, has gone through addiction, and the death of his friend Corey Haim.
4. I sort of think he is still kinda hot.  Yeah....I know.

- I had a cookie for breakfast today....don't judge.  Someone brought them in for a coworkers last day.  She made them with pudding. Uh, these cookies are amazing!  So soft and chewy. Recipe HERE.

- I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooo excited for summer movies.  Seriously, I cannot contain my excitement for all the great movies coming out this year.  Only issue, we need to find a babysitter so we can actually go SEE all these awesome movies coming out.  I am bummed I didn't get to see Oz The Great and Powerful....but there are some I can't miss.  Summer movie list HERE. I was truly surprised just how many movies are coming out.  There are also a ton this fall not listed below.....can we take out a movie viewing loan?!

What movies do you want to see this summer?!

The Top 5 I MUST see this summer at the theater:
1. Iron Man 3
2. Star Trek Into Darkness!!!!!!!!!!
3. Man of Steel
4. Despicable Me 2!!!!!
5. The Wolverine

The Top 5 I want to see but will have to wait for DVD:
1. The Great Gatsby
2. Monsters University
3. Now You See Me
4. World War Z
5. Red 2

- The weekend is almost here....anyone have any big (or not so big) plans this weekend?!  We need to get our butt in gear and start sorting through all the shit stuff we have to prepare for our garage sale. UGH. Can't someone just come do this for us?!  I will pay you in food and positive encouragement for a job well done.

Wednesday, May 08, 2013

Random Stuff Wednesday

Henry said I love you this weekend.  Ok, it was more like “ylub you”, but after I laid him in his crib for his nap I rubbed his back and said I love you and he turned to me and smiled and said ylub you.  Yep….my heart melted.  All weekend we were trying to get him to say it again and when he felt like it he did, though most of the time it was just “you too”.  (Which we are finding is typical; this child does nothing on demand and is very stubborn independent.)  My kid may only say a handful of words, but those are two of THE BEST words as a parent to hear!

I have been trying to wear my grown up fancy bra lately instead of my el cheapo bra.    Normally my boobs mantra is “Do your boobs hang low, do they wobble to and fro” but when I wear my fancy bra it is more like “Push’em up, push’em up….push’em WAAAAAY Up.”  I like when they are up and closer to my face and not my belly button; but damn, those fancy bras are super uncomfortable.  Ugh, if my boobs didn’t hang down to my knees, I would not wear one at all.

"It is freezing. It is freezing. It is sweating." I hear this ALL day long at work.  It is annoying, that's what it is.  Apparently the new thing at work is to complain about the temperature of the office if the temperature is not perfect for just YOU.  It is set at 72 and yes, it can be chilly in the office some days and other days it is warm.  Who cares.  There are a bunch of us in the office and we all prefer a different temperature but guess what, you are not at your house so get over it and dress appropriately to work inside an office.  (P.S. Please don’t say it is freezing when the thermostat says 72. UGH )

We have too much STUFF.  We had a lot of stuff before Henry and we wanted to get rid of it then but never did.  NOW, we just have stuff everywhere.  Henry has SO much stuff.  We hope to have a garage sale this June, but that takes time and hopefully now that Terry is done with school for the summer we can go through the boxes of crap we haven’t even looked at for the last 6 years.  We need to declutter.

I am SO GLAD Terry is done with school for the summer.

I scratched my forehead this morning and saw a ton (yes, literally a ton) of dry skin fall onto my desk.  I think I need to start moisturizing more than 2 days a month.

This weekend I had a larger snack sized bag of Sun Chips.  I was just going to eat half as I am counting calories. During Henry’s nap I watched a movie and next thing I noticed the bag was gone.  While I still think  the cats had something to do with the disappearance of all my chips, ultimately I did have to shamefully put my calories into My Fitness Pal.  I hate counting calories.  I also hate that I have nearly zero self control with chips/salty foods.

I got up this morning and walked a mile.  I wanted to walk more, but that required me getting up at the time I set my alarm for and NOT hitting snooze 4 times. After I did get up I rather enjoyed listening to music and being outside for ME time, which is pretty much the only ME time I get all day.  Just wish my ME times wasn’t spent working out.

This child turns TWO in exactly four months from today.  I don't believe it, I can't believe it, I shan't believe it!  Where does the time go....

Thursday, May 02, 2013

First Full Day Of School!

So since February Henry has been going to school for half a day, one day a week for about 3 1/2 hours.  Our goal was to get him out of the house and to socialize him with kids. 

Since he seems to enjoy school and it is good for him to interact with others (aka get their germs - ugh) we decided that with summer approaching and the opportunity for him to get outside more and play in a controlled setting like at school, we should try sending him a full day.

Today was the first day we did an entire day.  I really wasn't nervous about him going all day.  He gets to play inside and outside multiple times, have two snacks and lunch, and is with friends. (Who wouldn't love that.) I was, however, worried about him taking a nap.  I was convinced that there was NO WAY he would sleep there.  The nap time was 12-2 which is earlier than he normally naps. He still sleeps in a crib and has never slept on a cot.  He has never slept around other kids.  Nope, no way he is sleeping there.  Terry was ready to go pick him up at 2 if he didn't nap so he could still take a little nap today....because Henry is not pleasant when he doesn't nap :)

But folks....around 12:30 today I get this picture from the amazing place Henry goes to school and it just MADE. MY. DAY.
(How freak'n cute is he?!)

My (not so) little boy is SLEEPING at day care.  On a cot.  In a room with other kids.

My heart melted.

Of course there is a part of me that is realizing he is, in fact, getting older and growing up...I mean look at that picture, he looks so old.

I think we will go out for ice cream to celebrate his first full day!!

Update: I think Henry enjoyed school, he was waving at everyone as he left and this cute little girl kept saying "Bye Henry" as we left.  All the people were SO nice and excited Henry is going full time.  He was cranky and extremely independent for a bit when we first got home until he got in the AC and got some goldfish crackers and settled down a bit :)  He had seconds at lunch, of course he did.  He only slept an hour and 15 minutes...but he slept!  He went to bed early, BONUS.  We went out for ice cream and he hates it....what is wrong with him?! ;-)  They did sign language, spanish, and talked about bugs and drew with chalk.  He loved it!