So over the past week Henry has developed a fear of
baths. It is to the point where last
night just saying “do you want to take a bath” brought on tons of tears. And I had to actually get in the tub with him
while he was crying almost uncontrollably while he squeezed me so tightly, just
to rinse him off as he hadn't had a bath in over a week.
This was Henry about 5 minutes after his bath yesterday….still
crying :(
As you may have seen in a previous post, Henry is going
through a little phase. (That seems to have gotten a little better in the last
week.) But I think this is unrelated to
that.
Now we have never given him a bath every day as he has
sensitive skin and we just never felt he needed it. But now that he is outside more and going to
school one day a week, we have upped baths to a few times a week. A couple weeks ago he was fine. He LOVED bath time. He loved splashing and getting me all
wet. He loved his toys. And some days I would drain all the water and
he would still be sitting in there. And
while he has always HATED getting water poured on his head, we try to avoid
that and just use a wash cloth to rinse his hair; it has never been a reason
for him not to want a bath. Also, nothing
has happened to him in the bath where he fell under water or anything like that
to spur this fear.
Then a week ago he stood up in the bath and pointed down
to himself and squeaked. Before I could
realize what he wanted he was peeing in the tub. He then got, what I assume was embarrassed,
and started whining because he peed in the tub.
Of course I sat him on the potty and nothing and he went back in.
Then a couple days later Terry gave him a bath and he did
the same thing except this time he got a little more upset about peeing in the
tub and kept wanting to sit on the toilet but was getting upset on the toilet.
Then for the past three days we have tried to give him a
bath. First I tried and he was all
excited for bath. We put his toys in,
got undressed, and I put him in the tub.
And as soon as he was in the tub standing he started pointing to his
himself like he had to pee. So I put him
on the toilet, but nothing. So I put him
back in the tub and tears….lots of tears.
I tried for a few minutes to get him to relax and nothing, he just
wanted OUT. So then the next day Terry
tried, thinking maybe it was me or it was a new day and he would be fine. Same thing.
He pointed at himself and cried.
So that brings us to last night.
Now, we thought for a second, perhaps it hurt when he
pees….but he is fine ANY OTHER time he pees so we don’t think it is that. We are wondering if he is becoming more aware
of peeing and he feels like he needs too when he is in the bath but because he
isn’t potty trained he doesn’t quite get it and that is why he is rattled,
slightly scared when he does pee in the tub.
If he is around the house with no diaper he hates if he accidentally pees
on the carpet. You can tell he is trying
to control it, but can’t just yet.
Or perhaps he is just a toddler and he has this fear for
whatever reason and as quickly as it came on it will go away.
We did buy soap crayons and tried those yesterday and
they didn’t work. He just grasped to
them while crying. We have thought about
trying to bathe him in a swimsuit or swim diaper to see if that helps. And perhaps just an inch or two of water. However, we will most likely not try for a
few days as we do not want to perpetuate this fear anymore by forcing him to
get in the tub when he is noticeably upset.
We will most likely just give him a sponge bath for the next week or so
and slowly try again later. I also haven’t
tried the swimming pool yet this summer so I am not sure if he has a fear of
all water or just the tub. I might try
this weekend to get insight to that.
However, I must ask….have you ever had a child who was
scared of getting a bath, especially when they were OK with it before?!?!
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